My full legal name really is, “A Cage”. Everyone calls me, Cage. When people don’t know and try to call me on the phone, they either say, “Hey is A there?” or ask for “Mr. Cage”. My name is useful for screening telemarketers.
I’ll sometimes say that I’m a “Canadian eh” or that I have this name because “my mother is a hippie.” Both are factually correct, but neither are the truth.
I was born, Michael Paul Setter, but changed my name legally to “A Cage” in the 90’s. My decision to change my name was at first informed by my exposure to Kabalarian Numerology by my mother when I was young, but ultimately came about from an urge toward, “self creation.” The choice of the name “A Cage” arose out of feeling that to have a name is to have a kind of limit. Names, like labels, become bounding boxes. In Canadian society, our name is associated with a registration number.
Since I changed my name in my 20’s, I’ve come to believe that our actual, essential nature, spiritually, is limitless. Identifying with a name, although obviously for function in relationship with any other and society as a whole is essential, is part of the convention that binds us to a limited perspective.
As to who I am as “A Cage”, that’s something I’m making up on the fly. Most days I’m a husband, a father, a grandfather, a business owner, a skier, a snowboarder, a spear fisherman, a hunter, a golfer, a blogger. But more and more as time passes and my spiritual self-understanding grows, I am a devotee of Avatar Adi Da Samraj.
The first blog post I wrote, is called Bread Crumbs to Beloved. To get a better idea of what this blog is about and why I’m writing at all, start there.
However, for those who know Deb and I and are curious about our journey in relationship and marriage, or if you’re someone struggling with matters of the heart you may like to start with Sex, Love and Wounds.